HOWEVER! She recently molted, and husband and I are now questioning if she is actually a HE! Her mating dance consists of her wings crossing over at the back, and her leaning way out, side to side, like she is possessed...
Here are a few pics... excuse lack of focus on 2nd one, hard to get her to pose today!
Approx Nov/Dec 07:

Today(25th Dec 08):

Looks like a ring forming?!?
We honestly don't care if she is male or female, though would be a change... She is adored, and babied...
Would appreciate anyone's thoughts/experiences/suggestions! THANKS! and Merry Christmas!